I am a true believer in fighting for what is important to you. I would fight to the death for my children, my family and my life, but each one of these battles, would be fought out of love. I believe any battle, including the fight for equal rights, should be fought for reasons that would bring hope, health and happiness. Apparently, I’m naive because this is what I thought everyone was fighting for—love and peace. Sadly, I am mistaken, and apparently other’s happiness and destroying it, is more important to more people than I would like to believe.
I can’t seem to understand this, because unless or until it directly affects your life in a negative way, is it any of your concern how fellow human beings around you live their lives? It utterly amazes me how many people complain about insignificant, futile things that will never affect them unless they throw themselves into the mix by spewing lies and hatred, and then hiding behind their religious, or other, beliefs.
Don’t get me wrong, if I see an injustice made upon an innocent person or a child I would intervene. If something affected my life or my family in a negative way, I would vehemently voice my opinion, but my whole intention would be for the greater good, not my own personal agenda and absolutely not for the fact that I don’t like it, just because, arguing my side with no basis for my reasoning whatsoever.
There are other ways to deal with people, things and events that you don’t like, for example…
I don’t like reality shows that pay money to rich famewhores and punk kids that do nothing but make fools out of themselves for our entertainment and their back pockets. Do you know what I do about it? – I change the channel. I simply DON’T WATCH THEM; however, I have friends that are reality junkies, and just because they may disagree with me, they will always be my friends.
I don’t like spinach. How do I handle it when the disgusting dish ends up on my plate? Yep, that’s right, I DON’T EAT IT; however, my son loves spinach, but do I tell him, he’s bad for it? NO. My love for him is unconditional.
I don’t like hairy men in speedos (I don’t like any man in speedos). Guess what? I DON’T LOOK; however, Um, I don’t know if anybody likes this.
I don’t like minivans, I will never own one, but I’m not going to hate my neighbors or my friends for driving one.
I’m not fond of swimming in a lake, but if I am faced with the murky water with freaky fish I can’t see, I will make friends with it, and I may not love it, but I will accept the unknown and DEAL WITH IT because I don’t want to live standing on the pier wishing I could just let go and jump in.
I can go on and on about things I just don’t care for, because I have opinions about pretty much everything, but they’re MY opinions. I have no right to tell other people to join my club of distaste and threaten them that if they don’t they will be alienated from the normal. HAHA. Sounds like a bully, popular kid on the playground teasing the outcast to de-pants another outcast to become part of the “cool” crowd. I would laugh in my own face if I tried to do that.
Tragedy, heartache and pain are not prejudice, and neither is Love, so basically, I have no right to tell someone else how to live, love, laugh or cry. I have no right to define what it is that is important to someone else, and not important to others. In turn, YOU or anyone else have absolutely no right to tell ME how to live my life. So, I’ll make all the haters a deal, I won’t tell you that your house is ugly, your ugly, your beliefs are ridiculous and your kids are out of control (I won’t even waive when you pass by) if you keep you hatred and bigoted ideas to yourself. Deal? Yeah, I didn’t think so.
From what I understand, we are all born into this world at the least possessing a heart (although questionable at times) and we all have choices. We can love with the heart we are blessed with, accept the things we don’t understand, change things for the good, and go about our own lives, happily. Or, we can hate, judge, criticize and strip other people of their happiness, all along missing out on the life we could’ve had, only to look back when we’re old, grey and nobody likes us, and wonder why.
So, for those who seem to have all kinds of time on their hands that they spend it attempting to sabotage other people’s happiness either out of jealousy or some convoluted idea of what’s “right”, get your own life and make it “right”, because its quite obvious that its lacking in something.
My suggestion…find your own happiness, and if you don’t like my suggestion, my life, or this post…